Do Girls Really Give a Shit About Muscles?

Most dudes start lifting because they think getting jacked will help them get laid, and it will, to a certain extent. After a while, it starts becoming more important to impress other dudes in the weight room. The enlightened individuals that stick around, are the ones who eventually come to the realization that the only good reason to do it is for yourself.  Enlightenment aside, the question is still up for debate, are girls attracted to muscle? More specifically, are the girls you actually want to f*** attracted to muscle?

There is of course no true scientific answer to this question; human sexuality is far too variable. Women are attracted to different things, in different cultures, at different stages of their life, at different times of the month. Generally women prefer dominant men, and there is certainly something to be said about extremely muscular physiques triggering primal emotions of submissiveness in women.  In most cases, a significant improvement in your physique will result in increased success with women. In my experience, there is actually a threshold of muscularity that can result in reverse prejudice and negative stereotyping once passed.  Lack of depth, lack of intelligence, simple mindedness, aggressiveness, insecurity, and narcissism are all perceived traits that the bodybuilder must now overcome. Unfortunately, most attractive women don’t realize what’s actually involved in obtaining a truly impressive physique. Many are ignorant to the fact that a bodybuilder is by definition a hard worker, enthusiastic researcher, and a relentless experimenter. The true attributes on display are goal setting, discipline, and follow through.

The reverse meathead effect

This leaves the muscle man with a golden opportunity. Overcome the initial negative impression, and you’re made in the shade. There is nothing women love more than the classic archetype of the battle hardened brute with a heart of gold. They want to know that at any moment you can bash them over the head with your club and drag them back to your cave, but you won’t. The attraction lies in the contradiction. It all comes back to the boring answer you’ve heard a million times before, personality is the most important factor in regards to getting laid.  Becoming incredibly fit and muscular is not the magic bullet most guys expect it to be. The truth is, the confidence gained by your accomplishments in the gym may have a greater impact on your cocksmanship than your actual physique. Don’t be completely fooled though, women are more concerned with appearance now then ever before.